That soldier who lost a leg and cannot be a part of an infantry mission ever again also has great fun creating feasts in the kitchen, and he loves his annual retreat to the mountains where this year he will finish writing his ninth play. The nurse with a worn out back loves has a passion for working with stained glass. Her church is about to unveil a beautiful stained glass window that she has created, but you will never know learn that about her if you just focus on what she has done to earn a living.
The next time you meet someone, resist the temptation to ask those standard questions. Instead, ask them about the things they love, their hobbies or their family. Their answer may reveal a whole lot that you can never get when you ask the usual questions about work.
Then start thinking about yourself in terms or who you are and what drives you, instead of defining yourself by what you do for a living.